Man Code Lesson 1: HOW TO BE THE WOMAN THAT GETS THE GUY
by Stacey Murphy
Several months ago, I was singing the praises of this brave voice on Facebook. A woman bluntly said “No man wants to be handled” and so many women got mad and pissed off.
On the flip side, women are constantly asking me, “How can I get a good man”? So why did so many women become up in arms when this brave soul shared such profound wisdom? That’s because it’s easier to believe the problem rest with someone else, rather than spring clean their own closet. Women will spend hordes of money on hair, make-up and cloths, but won’t spend the time or money on clearing out their emotional closet that will deliver everlasting love.
This is the million dollar dilemma. At one point in my life, I was mired in this dilemma myself until I recognized the answer was smacking me in the face, but I was too blind to see it.
Then I realized 2 things had to happen if I wanted a man to commit–
1) I had to love the sensual side of me, and
2) I had to understand this divine creature called “Man”.
This is when my self-study in the MAN SCHOOL began. So for the next couple of weeks, I’m going to take you on a journey into the Man School, where I’ll share several brief lessons into understanding men.
So for today, here’s lesson #1.
Man School Lesson #1: The “Man Code”
Many women would pay good money to know the secret formula to figuring out men. If I could put it in a bottle, or pop it in a pill, I would be rich. Well, I have the next best thing. The women in my Rockin’ Love Goddess Program and Hook Him & Keep Him Boot Camp know there isn’t a pill or potion, but I teach them how to transform their feminine essence into the most powerful and potent love potion there is. It starts with the Man Code.
The Man Code Formula is this:
Mental Stimulation + Sexual Attraction/Arousal > So He Feels Good = Physical Intimacy + Emotional Connection
The formula is very simple – when you know how to confidently stimulate a man’s mind, leaving those mental breadcrumbs for him to follow, this makes him curious and eager to want to know more. When you combine this with the mesmerizing essence of your feminine charms and confident sexual expression, this makes a man feel good when he’s with you. This quickly leads to the physical intimacy, emotional support and soul level connection you crave. This is the Holy Grail to understand men!
Here’s my coach’s challenge in how to embody the Man Code:
1) Accolades of Appreciation (Mental): Men respond more favorably to words of appreciation for the things they DO for a woman.
How to Get into His Heart: Make a list of all the things you appreciate about men and share how these acts of love and appreciation make you feel. This connects the mind to the emotions. Don’t fall for a guy who’s all talk and inconsistent action – talk is cheap, but action speaks volumes.
2) Show Your Sassy Side (Sexual): Men are intoxicated by a sensual woman who is comfortable with her feminine grace. Men are turned on when they know the woman is aware of her powerful essence and chooses to use it.
How to Get into His Heart: Make a list of how you are, or desire to be, as a sensual woman. I want you to have fun and suspend fear, judgement or guilt for a moment. Each week, focus on bringing one of these elements to life. A good place to start is to buy yourself sexy undergarments. French women do this all the time. They buy the sassy lingerie for themselves to feel good. Wearing something slinky, puts a pep in your step and a swagger in your hips. If a man has the benefit of seeing it, that’s the cherry on top.